2001-06-30 - 10:17 a.m.

Dear Denzel,
Does the 'G' spot really live up to all its hype? If indeed it does, how do I find it? I'm happily single at the moment, so this would be ... ahem ... a solo expedition. *grin*
Thanks!

Ready to Dig Deep

Dear Digger,

It's not a fun answer, but it's the true one: G-spots are different for different women. Sensitivity levels differ, and so does the location of the ... oh, let's call it "the secret panel in the cave of wonders". So you're just going to have to take time out for an hour or two of experimentation every night until you find out everything there is to know about yours. That's your homework assignment.

Where do you find it? First and foremost, it's on the anterior (front) wall of the vagina. I found this extensive site on the G-"crest" and female ejaculation, written by Gary Schubach Ed.D., A.C.S., some lucky stiff who got a doctorate in education—specializing in human sexuality—at the Institute for Advanced Study on Human Sexuality in San Francisco. If anybody wants to know what they can get me for my birthday, a scholarship to that school would be sweet. Anyway, he describes the G-spot as more of a crest, and from my personal experience, I would agree with him. And, if you hadn't heard this before, G-crest stimulation is what prompts female ejaculation for some women. That's why the two subjects are lumped together. Not just because I can't stop talking about female ejaculation.

If you want to test your G-spot out (and I do mean "test", using varying degrees of speed and pressure) the Badsnake way, I get the best response with a partner lying on her back. My palm is up, I've got my middle and ring fingers inserted into the vagina, and I make a sweeping motion with those two fingers, pulling them upward and toward my palm as I draw my hand out just a little. Pull/Lift. I'm stimulating the anterior arch of the vaginal wall.

Since you mention that you'll be on a solo expedition (excellent euphemism, by the way), a hand stimulation method may not work for you unless you're skinny and your arms are way longer than mine. You will need to get at least a good two inches inside the vagina.

If you're shopping for or selecting a vibrator or dildo to use on your expedition, pick one that's got a good upward curve at the tip for G-crest stimulation. Or just go to Good Vibrations and pick up the G-Spot Kit, which gives you an appropriately shaped battery-operated vibrator AND a book on how to explore the G-spot and get yourself off with it for only $21.00! Can you believe it? What a bargain. No, I am not a commissioned sales person.

Keep in mind that just like some women have an almost too-sensitive clitoris while others can take a licking and keep on kicking, so goes the G-spot. Sara loves firm, fast G-spot stimulation and ejaculates all over the place when I'm doing that pull/lift pull/lift thing with my fingers. The same action is not comfortable for Deb. She'd rather have the in-and-out motion that stimulates the vaginal lips and the entire vaginal wall more evenly.

While you're doing your homework, don't forget to give yourself little breaks in the action to diminish your chances of overloading the whole system and having to stop completely.

Going after the clit while simultaneously stimulating the G-spot can be loads of fun, but it might split your focus too much, or end up being too much stimulation. You'll probably know pretty quickly if you need to settle down and pay attention to one thing at a time.

And finally, the orgasm. A G-spot orgasm will be deeper and more diffuse than your typical intense, and intensely focused, clitoral orgasm. Think kettle drum instead of electric jolt.

So does the G-spot measure up to the hype? Yours just might. What are you waiting for? Go find out, girl.

—Badsnake

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